Taking a stab at the quote challenge

“Mother, mother Ocean,
I have heard your call,
Wanted to sail upon your waters,
Since I was three feet tall”

So, some friends of mine are having this quote challenge thing on their various blogs. It is designed, I think to give them something to write about, and and way to share or express themselves in some rather interesting ways. Over the weeks they’ve been engaged in this challenge I’ve greatly enjoyed reading their posts each week, but until today I’ve only felt able to write about one previous quote. Then I got home today, and read this:
““A good friend can tell you what is the matter with you in a minute.  He may not seem such a good friend after telling.”
I have to admit that kind of rocked me back  a bit. Those words got me thinking. Quite frankly, those words got me remembering some conversations with some of my true friends over the years. Some of those memories were actually quite pleasant. Some were not so pleasant at all.
I showed that quote to one of my oldest friends as we were talking on line this evening and he was concerned that it seemed to say that a true friend was negative. I didn’t get that feeling at all. To my mind the quote says that a true friend has the courage to risk a friendship when he/she deems it important. It also says, to me, that a true friend knows you well enough to see behind, beyond, whatever fronts one puts up.
I’ve been on both sides of that situation. I have been the friend that risked losing a friendship because I felt I had to say something about what a friend was doing, or about to do. It is not easy, nor should it be, but it is sometimes necessary. And I have lost friendships over doing so, but I still think I did the right thing. I’ve also been blessed to be the one who has been told I was screwing up in a rather spectacular fashion by good, true friends. Friends that truly had my best interest at heart, despite the pain their words caused. It sucked, truly sucked, at the time, but looking back on it now, I  thank them for doing so. I sincerely hope that when or if I am faced with being the one doing the telling that I have the courage to do so. I also sincerely hope in the much more likely situation that a close, true, friend is in the position of telling me something they think I need to be told that I am smart enough to realize that their goal is not to hurt, but to help.

Cormac

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